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Questions that mothers of twins hate to hear!

People are curious… very curious so when it comes to twins and they ask a lot of questions. And it bothers a lot of us twin moms!
Some questions bother me because it’s too private but in general it doesn’t affect me yet!

So what are the questions and answers?

– Are they twins? “No they are triplets but I leave the ugly one at home!” Or “no, they are triplets. oh crap where’s the other one?”

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Are they identical or fraternal? Oh this question if it’s answered creates more questions!

– Do twins run in your family?
So when I answer this question I say “no”, and sometimes I add “identical twins are not hereditary and are a random occurrence. It can happen to anybody… but people don’t understand. For them all twins must run in your family…
So they insist are there twins in your husbands family and I answer yes .. You can see on their face that it’s because of that… And they think you are a Mom of twins and you don’t have any knowledge about it. People come on. Listen… or Google it if you don’t trust the twin mom!!!

Were you on fertility drugs?

– The questions that bothered me yesterday in my elevator was about fertility drugs… Some privacy people…  This woman asked me if I took fertility drugs to get my twins. That was a little inappropriate to me…
I looked at her and said “excuse me?” And she said “oh… you don’t understand the question because you are French?”
I’m like what? Sorry, I had to answer and the guy next to her smiled “I understood the question (I always give a big smile!) and my answer is I had sex with my husband and it worked so well that we made two!”  And good the door open and I left! She had a strange look on her face! People what’s going on! Privacy please!!!

Are they natural? “They are not robots as far as I know!!” Again they want to know your sex life or if you struggle to get them… Where is the privacy?

How do you tell them apart? I spend time with them all day! I know their personality and they have some differences!

C-section? What is matter with you? What do you care if I deliver my baby by c-section or vaginly!

Which one is the good one? Ha ha ha do we ask this question to a singleton mom? I don’t think so! So why with twins do we need to have one good and one bad!! Come on!

You have your hands full, don’t you?  “Hands full, Hearts full!” Indeed.

– The funny comment from people at the red light the other day… “twins, I don’t know how you do it. Thank god I only had one at a time”. My answer is “I’m happy because it’s awesome! Oh and I have another one at home! They are like “What? Good luck”.

– I didn’t hear it yet but apparently it comes often “better you than me” some moms answer “that is for sure!!” or “ya God gave them to me not you” !!! Lol it makes me laugh!
I’m wondering what I will say if they tell me that!!!

“I feel so sorry for you, double trouble”! I will answer double fun, double love!!! I didn’t have trouble with my first one so why I will have trouble with two more!!

– Last time I went to doctors appointment for the girls a woman said, “wow two more boys!” I looked at her, smile (always smiling!) and said “Oh yes my boys love to wear pink and purple”!!!

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I might forget some comments or some questions! I will update the article with what I hear from people!

Voila now you know what twins moms hate to hear! ha ha ha!!! I don’tt hear these questions often yet because I hide my girls with a blanket so I keep the secret!!! 🙂


    7 replies to "Questions that twin moms hate to hear"

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    • Salma

      I’m sure I must have blundered and asked a question from the list in the past. Now I know! 🙂

    • Virginia Bowen

      I have two boys under three years old and I always get the “you got your hands full” line. I think people often don’t invest just a few moments of forethought before they ask a question or make a comment because if they did, they might realize how invasive or insensitive they are being. You have a great perspective on having twins to offer as it often does sound daunting. Us moms are capable of handling anything! Great post!

    • Bonnie Way

      Oh, man, this was sooooo funny! I’m a twin (fraternal – I have a brother) but yep, we got asked STUPID questions. And I’ve gotten annoyed by the questions I’ve been asked about my kids (no twins – yet!) when they are babies. You’re right – privacy, people? Why do they care how heavy my kid is or if she’s a girl or a boy? Anyway. 🙂 I’ve blogged about this a couple times too so this made me laugh. Thanks for sharing!

    • Renata Wurster

      Ooo, I’ve so made some of these blunders. I’m sure you get tons being a mom of twins (it’s a fascinating concept to those of us that don’t have twins or don’t know many twins) but even as a mom to singletons I get inappropriate questions often. I figured it was just par for the course of motherhood! I will try to quell my curiosity from now on though and be more aware. Thanks for the heads up!

    • Pamela

      These is a pretty complete list. I have fraternal boy/girl twins so it is funny to be asked if they’re identical. Although worrying when a neurologist asked me! I don’t like questions about drugs/fertility treatment as it is very invasive. I don’t get asked to many questions but I do get the identical one. Also comments like “you have your hands full”. I know a number of women who had a third baby when her twins were 1 1/2 ish so “hands full” is relative.

    • Heather

      Guilty! As Renata said, those of us without are pretty curious (doesn’t excuse insensitivity/rudeness)! Although sometimes I ask first if they are twins as I’ve before assumed two babies were twins and they weren’t! Perhaps best not to question either way?

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